Are you Tired of people Pleasing?

Do you find yourself stuck in patterns that leave you…

Questioning who your “true self” really is?

More comfortable focused on the needs of others than your own?

Guilty when you say no to requests for help and your time?

Hold silent resentment when you have to sacrifice for others that don’t seem to reciprocate?

Find that you shapeshift to match what is expected of you?

Gravitate towards telling white lies or making excuses to be polite, as opposed to saying no?

Constantly chasing the next accomplishment, and still don’t feel enough?

Feel embarrassed that you are not self advocating, or setting boundaries?

If any, or All of these Resonate, you're not alone.

In fact, our agreeableness is an amazing strength. We just need to discern where agreeableness comes at the expense of our authenticity. And to deprogram a society that trained us to conform and serve a purpose that is not our own.

Welcome to REdiscover Your Identity

At Rediscover Your Identity, I work with self-proclaimed people pleasers to identify their authentic goals and desires. As a people pleaser, you become disconnected from what you truly want. You learned to filter your self-definition through layers of careful prediction of how you will be perceived by others. I get it because I am a former people pleaser myself!

Understanding that you first need to do the work to connect back to your true desires to identify your life path matters immensely — in fact, it is a requirement! Without this work, your default setting is likely pointing towards what will finally make you appear to be good enough to yourself and others. Your sights may be aimed where you can show you finally have it all figured out to the outside world, but unfortunately this type of success is fleeting.

The pursuit of validation seeking can feel like you are moving, but if you are not moving towards what you are truly passionate about, your unlocked potential and unique contribution are sadly stashed away from the world. And once the sense of accomplishment fades away, you face familiar burnout and self blame, hidden resentment, and disappointment finding yourself again back in the cycle to try to fix your life. You need a coach that understands this dynamic and has been through it themselves — so you can be guided down the path of reconnecting to the authentic you while planning your future!

My philosophy is that every person, even us people pleasers believe it or not, have an inner knowing about their true desires and what is best for their life. If you are a people pleaser, this knowing just needs to be surfaced and connected to! At the same time we connect to this truth, we will address the internalized messages that put these filters up in the first place. From there, we will create a sense of inner direction and certainty in planning your new path! And work to cultivate the confidence that will create the version of you that can weather whatever challenges come your way!

Through skills in finding your values and interests, setting authentic goals, navigating failure, emotional resiliency, and finding meaning in our present challenges, this work will transform the way you approach all facets of your life. Together we will work to break through the barriers of self-sacrifice at the expense of your own dreams, societal expectations that have you stuck in limited roles and beliefs, and unmeetable standards that hold you back. You will learn how to generate belief in yourself, on purpose, and gain confidence in knowing you are on the right path for your intentional self.

I help my clients to unlock and embody the life they have always wanted to live, by teaching them how to connect with what they truly want. And I want to work with you to help you to rediscover yourself in a profound way, so you can move past the ‘you’ that is working so hard to be good enough and meet expectations. And finally grow into the courageous and authentic ‘you’ that you have always been meant to be.

About Our Coach

Hi, I am Matt Taillon!

I am a certified Life Coach, specialized in finding your true self outside of people pleasing. My goal is to be an example of the type of change you can create for yourself as a people pleaser, by living out my own imperfectly unfiltered and wholehearted path!

Struggling with putting off change and finding a sense of direction that felt authentic, I was on a path that looked great on paper, but didn’t feel so great experientially. Working in a corporate tech job for a decade, and following all of the soceitally encouraged steps on the pathway to success — it still felt like something indescribably big was missing, and that it was my fault for feeling this way. I would tell myself that maybe I needed to be grateful because I had a lot more than others — or to just be positive, taking inventory of what I did have!

I followed all of the necessary steps shown to promise a fulfilled life, and I presented that to everyone externally. I was a professional at playing the part of the happy and fulfilled person, it was familar and felt like the morally right thing to do. However, internally, the experience of burnout was my default, I was resentful of others that didn’t focus on me the way I focused on them, and there was a lack of connection in my life to any meaningful purpose. On the outside I looked happy, and at times I was truly convinced by my own performance. However, secretely I was also apathetic, and felt nothing really mattered — and it all fell somewhat flat.

I had silently given up on my life being a story that was filled with the full human spectrum of purpose and fulfillment, and maybe that I was better off being happy living on the sidelines in my own life. In 2021, confused and blaming myself in the times that felt the darkest, I began doing some serious soul searching. By chance, I stumbled upon skills and tools in Life Coaching.

I began to learn with curiousity and passion how to bring light back into my life. I had found the answers I was looking for to cultivate a life centered around my own authentic desires, by looking inward. I paved my path towards meaningful change with some initially wobbly legs, but with a new courageous belief in myself. Rediscovering who I am outside of soceital expectations and through my own true unfiltered values and interests. I got there by connecting to myself outside of my familiar externally focused filters that told me what I should or even was capable of doing. I learned to look inward to identify my higher purpose — and mine is guiding others on their own path of authentic growth, connected to their own true desires and values!

Throughout my own experience over the years, I have learned, honed, and created many tools for my own people pleasing patterns that I want to share with you if you have these same challenges! And beyond that, I want to give you back the relationship with your own true desires that you deserve. This is my mission in helping others — to help you wade through your entrenched societal programming and fear of failure, to awaken your courageous self belief and conscious, chosen identity! You are not alone in this very real struggle to find authenticity that is common in our comparative and competitive society.

If you feel like a performer in your own life I want to help you to move into your own authenticity, and release your unlocked passion and potential to the world! I invite you to join me on the path of rediscovering yourself in a way that is more you than ever before, outside of performing for an imaginary audience, and inline with who you truly are.

Our CoaChing Programs

What’s Included in Our Programs?

Each program is 12 weeks including the following:

Weekly 1 hour One-on-One Coaching Call
Weekly Journal Prompt
Weekly Meditation Assignment
Weekly Self Discovery Assignments - a new topic will be introduced each week.
Access to our moderated Q&A Board to post questions and engage with our community.
Discounted session costs, plus educational materials , community involvement , and progress check-ins .

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What other People Get Wrong about People Pleasers

It is common as people pleasers to have a history of being misunderstood by others as being overly sensitive, at times dishonest about what we really feel, and even get some pretty blunt feedback that we are weak. Much of the advice we have received is to just not care what others think or feel, stop overthinking, become invulnerable, or even just fight back. This is overly simplified advice, and isn’t connected to why we people please. This isn’t our style and it doesnt have to be! Many of us with these patterns are wired to feel deeper, and this is one of our greatest strengths that can be harnesssed, not a weakness that needs to be turned off!

We will work together to find your own brand of compassionate assertiveness that matches your style, and harnesses your strength in feeling — where you are your own steady self-advocate — but not out of line with your values, inherent kindness, and humanity.

Navigate The Change To Rediscover Your Authentic Self